27 May 2008 Eve Hemming
It’s a known fact that among the top stressors
establishing a new relationship, changing
homes, jobs, cities or countries.
Moving to another country is in essence a conglomerate change that encompasses
and that one must quietly blend
and merge with the landscape and avoid
being conspicuous. I’m not sure about “colourful poppies”. It could be challenging for someone
scarves and gypsy paraphernalia.
and be an omnipotent observer. I’m told one should
avoid saying “just now”. It’s interpreted as
Afrikaans translation. It is a South Africanism that we understand only
has to learn by osmosis.
One internalises that concept into one’s personal mind map.
The most difficult part of going anywhere is the getting there. That’s when one realises
It’s like peeling an onion — one peels off layers
disposing of one’s objects
wet-eyed emotional goodbyes.
Rehoming doggies is
one of the things
And at the epicentre, saying goodbye to family has yet to come — at the airport, where I’ll have my Rescue Remedy.
But being a born optimist means that after the deconstruction phase the reconstruction phase emerges. And if one’s flexible with a sprinkling of chutzpah, one can, I'm sure, acclimatise to change.
Posted by Vren on 27 May 2008
The big change
Good luck, Eve. I remember you well from the days of Kate and our daughter, Jennifer,
at Epworth nursery (in those days) school. I'm sure that with your cheerful optimism
and style, you'll be made most welcome in NZ.
Posted by Eve Hemming on 27 May 2008
Vren:- Yes I remember you, too! Thanks. Gosh that was eons ago; our little girls at
pre-school, now in their mid-thirties!This is the most difficult thing I have ever done
in my entire life and certainly not a 'soft option' as some people may think!I cannot
start to conceptualise what life will be like away from all that is in my bones and blood.
But we're doing it to be with some of our beloved grandkids. Bless you Vren and family
- with deep gratitude, E.
Posted by Eleanor Poulter on 28 May 2008
New Zealand The mention of NZ road rules reminds me of one of my moments
of major astonishment (apart from the amazing beauty of the scenery) in that vehicles
obediently stop at marked pedestrian crossings when someone is about to or is crossing
the road. We were approaching a pedestrian crossing (we weren't even waiting on the
side of the road) when a car stopped on the far side of the 4-lane road and waited for us
to cross! Here in SA one's life is at risk even with a little green man telling us it's "safe" to
cross! Generally life is very quiet and tranquil there (nice for a holiday), but unless one's
got various things to keep one busy, I suspect it could get quite boring!
Posted by Heather Bennett on 29 May 2008
We made the move to
it to be and more! In the beginning we'd wake every day and check The Witness
online to see if everything was still ok in our old home town. Then, once the
excitement of finding a home and settling into it had died down, we found
ourselves latching on to all things South African as if we were afraid of forgetting
where we came from in the excitement of reinventing ourselves as Kiwis. Last
week when a Zim immigrant was acquitted of the murder of his adopted 10-year
old daughter (she died as a result of HIV-AIDS which is almost unknown here)
and his family and friends sang and ululated in celebration on the steps of the
court house, that beautiful sound brought a boulder to my throat and Howick
Falls to my eyes! Do we love it? Yes, although we're nervous of the approaching
Winter and the extreme cold everyone talks about. We miss the life we had
and the family we left behind with a constant gnawing ache but slowly, slowly
we're settling in and creating new memories here to accompany those we have
of life BNZ - Before New Zealand. We've learnt to 'give way to the right' in the
traffic, even at broken traffic lights! We've also learnt that in
couple is just two, not a few, as it means to many South Africans. Nowadays
if I ask the kids for a couple of anythings, I get asked 'is that a
couple or a South African one?!' Good luck, relish the peace of mind you'll
find here oh and welcome back to the simpler, quieter lifestyle of the 70's!
of Tall Poppy Syndrome in Aussie,
NZ and Canada.
Pic taken from Kiwiarama, 'the alternative to Kiwipedia.'